I am not a teenager anymore in high school meeting lots of singles to go out with. I am not even a young adult who can frequent the bars or parties where other singles hang out. I am a middle aged adult. How do I meet singles that are truly single and not only out for a one night stand?
When I go to the supermarket, I never get approached by someone wanting to know how to choose the best tomatoes or cantaloupes. I think that is just a made up scenario. It doesn’t happen.
Where can a single middle age adult go and find a date that could really turn into something more than just one date?
Speed dating does sound encouraging. The only thing about it that worries me is that most singles are young people and not middle aged. Would one of them singles really want me, at my age, sitting across from them? I think not.
What I have found out through research is, there are groups designed for older singles. Even older than 50. It seems they cater to all ages, not just young singles. There is a large population of people who are over 50 that could be finding themselves single again. They have been out of the dating scene for so long, and most have no idea where to start.
I got online and searched for help. I did find some sites that are geared to my age group. These sites are really matchmaking sites, but they offer speed dating. It’s a way to meet new people from my area and it fits into my schedule. I love it.
Speed dating isn’t what many people think it is. It’s a safe way to meet other singles and have an idea of who they are and what their likes and dislikes are before stepping out on a date with them. You usually have about 2 hours that you spend checking out other singles for a limited amount of time. Then if you find a person you have interest in, you may end up with a date.
If attending a speed dating event, you need to make sure you sign up for one that is geared to your age group. As I am an older adult, older than 50, I am sure a young single would not really be interested in me. So me attending an event for younger people would be a waste of my time and theirs.
When attending an event off line, they have them on and off line, I need to dress nice. I am presenting myself for the first time and first impressions are lasting ones.
Then I need to be prepared to ask or reply to questions. I have some index cards with replies to the common questions I found online that people tend to ask. I also have some I prepared with questions to ask the other singles if I am the one asking questions.
To find an event, I would suggest searching online. In the search box, put in speed dating / your city. It use to be good to check out newspapers but anymore, most things are posted online.
It sounds like speed dating could be an enjoyable experience. If it gets me a date with a nice single around my age, I will be happy.